Is She Pregnant?
You are not the first guy to be in this situation. And you are not alone. You can get through this together, the two of you. She needs you now and needs to know you can support her emotionally and physically…even spiritually. It is very important that you provide the support she needs. Here are some tips on how to do this.
What To Do:
Communication is key. Sharing what you think, and feel, will help the two of you. As you talk together, keep listening and take time to come to a good decision for all three of you. Doing the right thing, instead of the easy thing, is not always easy. Be available to her.
She needs to know that you are there for her. She needs you now more than ever before.
Talk with people who care about you, like your parents, her parents, and others who may feel hurt, or affected, by your choices. Ask for the input of people who you trust and respect…those who love you both. Keeping this a secret will increase stress for both of you.
Educate yourself. We have referrals, resources, and help for both of you if you are unsure where to go or your next steps.
Be honest with her and yourself. At times like these, our feelings may be change quickly – back and forth. The more you talk, the less confusing it feels, and you’ll be amazed at how much you can grow together as you listen and talk through it. These tough times can be the very thing that strengthens your relationship…if you work it out together.
Gather the facts. Collect information and ask for advice from trusted people.
Be transparent and honest with her and yourself. It’s ok to be scared or unsure about what tomorrow will be like. As long as you do it together, you feel proud of where you land.
What Not To Do:
Don’t avoid your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid I, the more difficult it will be for the three of you…now and later.
Don’t pressure her to do what you want. There may be more than one solution if you are open to it and working together.
Don’t stop talking or listening. Share how you feelings and what is important to you whenever it is needed.